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Introducing Our New Partnership: Bump Club and Beyond VIP (+ New Customizable Boxes)

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October 25, 2018

We’re Excited to Partner With Bump Club and Beyond

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Our build-a-box option lets you decide which of our favorite, lovingly-chosen products you want to give (or receive). Bring Modern Mommy Doc’s style right to your doorstep. We pick only the sweetest treasures for the sweetest little babes. Pamper yourself or your favorite mom-to-be. Or, skip the box and order items individually.

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Parenting Hacks for New Moms | Why It’s Great That You and Your Partner Aren’t Exactly the Same

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Babies

Date:

October 5, 2018

So, you and your partner don’t parent exactly the same way. You have different styles. You see things differently. Let it help you. You have probably always done a lot of things differently, it just hasn’t been quite so in your face as right now. You’re trying to team up, to be a parenting partner, and to create consistency for little Lucy (or Joey). Your ideas about the best way to do that might be different some (or most) of the time. You may like different bottles, you may think certain toys are better than others. You may even have a different way of discussing which bottles or toys are the best! 

Parenting Partner Differences

I’m a talker. I could hash out my thoughts about child rearing verbally all day long. My husband HAAAATES doing that. He would rather think on his own about it, then have a short session where we try to problem solve. Fair enough, I’ve decided. I save the hashing out for my girlfriends (and my pediatrician) and I keep it short and sweet with hubby. Now that my eldest daughter is getting older, I see that sometimes she needs me to help her talk through her emotions but sometimes she just needs silence, an empathetic look and a hug from her dad. 

It’s tempting to consider yourself the better parent, especially if you feel like you do all the reading, all the researching, all the planning around your baby. But partners are meant to be just that – two people working together to problem-solve, to support each other and to, ultimately, become the best parents they can be. Embrace your differences and let them work for you, not against you. After all, isn’t that what being a parent partner is all about?

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Parenting Hacks for New Moms | How to Make the Most of Your Good AND Bad Maternity Leave Days

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Babies

Date:

September 28, 2018

The Maternity Leave Blahs

I spent so much time postpartum on maternity leave as a new mom sitting and watching TV. Alone. With my baby sleeping on me. It sounds cute and it was, for a few days. But, in the end, it was a bad thing to be isolated and mindless for so long.

The parents I see in my pediatrics clinic who feel the most content (instead of “blah” like I felt) have a plan for what to do with their time on parental leave and beyond. They know that, while unstructured weeks on end SOUND like a good idea, it usually leaves them feeling pretty down and purposeless once they’re about a month (or sooner) into it. We can ALL learn from them!

When my second baby came along, I made a commitment to turn off the TV and to turn on background music instead. I made playlists so I could already have music on-command that inspired and relaxed/energized me.  I made a list of the friends I wanted to connect with and books I wanted to read. I figured out a self-care plan. I set up some (very light) contract work to do for a local health organization during my maternity leave. Non-stressful tasks that aren’t baby-related are so important for us, especially if we are used to being at work 40 hours a week.

Even if your baby is already here, take a moment to make a plan for self-care and for mental stimulation in the early days, weeks and months- it will pay off in the end.

The Maternity Leave Blues

There you are, half-dressed on maternity leave with baby vomit on your sweatshirt, hair kinked and messy, a house strewn with toys (that you swear you just picked up last night – how on earth did they get all over the house again so soon?). 

It’s either laugh or cry on those crazy parenting days. How to get from a feeling a complete desperation to a place of peace? I use a technique I call  “Out of the Bubble.” 

Imagine yourself sitting on top of a huge glass bubble and you’re inside it with your child, having your moment. You can see what’s going on but you’re not a part of it. Instead, you’re an observer. You notice what’s going on before your eyes but it’s going on in front of you, not to you, like you’re watching yourself in a movie. Suddenly, as you breathe and observe, you’re not so caught up in how horrible everything is right then. You have emotional distance and gain some objectivity.

Of course, breathing in and out and while using imagery is not going to solve every problem you ever have as a parent, and you may not be able to even use this strategy every time you have a crazy day. When you can use it, though, you’ll feel yourself relax and develop mindfulness. You’ll build resilience in yourself and your kids as they watch you learn how to cope in stressful situations.

The Maternity Leave Blessings

We all know that maternity leave is no walk in the park. Hard days, boring days, in-between days…it’s like a roller coaster. There are, though, hidden blessings in it all. Learn to get mindful and intentional while you’re at home with your baby and you’ll set yourself up for long-term success months, even years later.

Wanting More Parenting Help?

Want more information about how to parent and cope when you’re a new mom? Check out our book, The Newborn Baby Blueprint: Preparing to Care For Your Infant and Yourself.

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Parenting Hacks for New Moms | Happy Parents Have Realistic Expectations

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Babies

Date:

September 19, 2018

I see a lot of parents-to-be in my office and they have a lot of questions. They also have a variety of expectations when it comes to having a new baby.

Most of their questions are about sleep and breastfeeding. Often, though, there a lot of questions about how to preserve some sense of normalcy, about how to keep things as easy and fun as possible. To be honest, I get the most nervous for the parents looking for things to stay the same. I encourage them to, instead, consider this a moment in time that will soon be over but that tends to go best when expectations are in check.

You will have fun again, I tell them, you will have date nights, you will at some point (kind of) get back to who you were before you became mommy or daddy. Right now, though, it’s time to dig in your heels and expect there will be a lot of tough days and nights. There will be moments of complete bliss, to be sure, but being a parent can be, well, annoying at times. You don’t have your freedom, you lose control of your schedule, you get lost in a sea of feeding and pooping and sleeping, then doing it again (if you’re looking for a free new mom guide to help you along, click here). 

Setting Realistic Expectations

Is it worth it? Absolutely. Is it hard? You betcha. Turns out it’s better to be mentally prepared for a period of awkward transition than to expect smooth sailing from the get-go. Becoming a parent, just like starting any new and challenging job, usually involves a steep learning curve at the beginning.

Dealing With a Tough Baby

Now, maybe you’ve already had a new baby and that baby is TOUGH—one with colic or who is just straight up a lot of work (If you have an easy baby, congratulations. Now, stop telling other parents how easy your baby is. They will only go home and cry in private.).

If you have a “hands-on” baby, first remember this: it will get better, believe me. I’ve been there and I know it does. But, while you wait till that magic day, do this as much as possible:

Talk about it. That is the only way to get the support you need. Call your mom or your sister, get to a mommy support group, call Baby Blues Connection, meet up with a friend. Better yet, have the friend come to you.

Expectations vs. Reality

If you are struggling with a baby under the age of four months that you think has colic, talk to your provider. Dealing with a colicky baby all day and all night can cause discord between parents, maternal depression, and anxiety. Your pediatrician can help by doing a thorough history and physical to make sure there isn’t a more serious medical condition and can offer support and resources to help you cope with the stress of a baby that doesn’t give you a break.

Colic is a real, difficult, confusing thing to go through with your baby. The good news: it does end. Your baby will not fuss and cry forever. But while you’re waiting for that magic day to arrive, reach out for help if you need it and take as much care of yourself as possible.

Wanting More Parenting Help?

Want more information about how to parent and cope when you’re a new mom? Check out our book, The Newborn Baby Blueprint: Preparing to Care For Your Infant and Yourself.

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Looking for baby registry or baby shower gifts? You’ll love our Newborn Gift Boxes (in Baby Boy, Baby Girl, and Gender Neutral). They’re full of information, inspiration, and a little love for all the mamas and mamas-to-be in your life (including you!).

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Parenting Hacks for Early Motherhood | Why Experienced Parents Are So Confident & How to Handle Baby Advice

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Babies

Date:

September 13, 2018

When I first entered motherhood, I kept watching my seasoned mom friends with almost jealousy. I felt like I must be doing something wrong because it wasn’t as easy for me. Turns out, that’s not true at all. They just had this secret weapon up their sleeves: they knew what to expect.  Not in that, “Oh yeah, babies are hard, I remember this” kind of way. More in a concrete, “I understand that this stage takes exactly two days to pass. I believe it will pass because there was a time three years ago that the very same thing happened and it passed” kind of way.

They have things etched into their memories from early parenting. Things like:

Baby’s initial sleepy stage: 24 hours

Body screaming out in pain as baby learns to latch: 1 week

Breasts engorged and throbbing: 72-90 hours

Fussy period: 2 weeks old – 3 months

Toddler tantrums: 2 years – 3 years

You know, that type of thing.

Now, have people written these estimates of time all over the internet? Of course. But if your baby arrives and you feel like none of that information made a difference, there’s a reason why: it’s because it’s hard to believe those stages really are just a stage until you’ve lived through them. Yep, motherhood is a learn by doing kind of experience.

It’s like running a long race. If you’ve run one before, even if it was years ago, it still feels somewhat attainable in the heat of it.  If you’re a race “virgin” it’s kind of hard to believe you will actually come out on the other side without collapsing. If you haven’t had a baby before, visualizing what’s ahead and asking others about their experiences, plus reading credible information from reliable sources can make those early days easier and can help you become a parenting pro, too. 

Now What About All That Baby Advice You’re Getting?

There is so much advice about babies out there. How to have a strong pregnancy, how to give birth and then, of course, how to take care of a baby in the first months to a year. If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed and, maybe, a little irritated, you’re not alone. It flustered me at first, too, when my mom would give me parenting advice. She hadn’t done the early motherhood thing in 30 plus years, what did she know? But the reality is, she had the ability to see things about my daughter that I could not. She also was not exhausted like I was. Same goes for friends with older kids – they can be a huge wealth of information.

Being a pediatrician made some aspects of baby care easier for me but not all of them, by any means (by the way, if you want some new mom pediatrician tips I DID learn along the way, click here to get our free guide). As my friend said when I was just four weeks into being a parent, “Don’t feel bad if you don’t always know what to do. You went to medical school, not mommy school! I imagine the things they teach in mommy school are much different than what they teach in anatomy class.”

The Key to Easing Into Motherhood?

Take everything as a suggestion and as an interesting perspective and then filter, filter, filter. Not everyone’s opinion is something you will use with your own child but, if you are open to others’ observations, you will be less frustrated and more successful (you can get our free guide to successful parenting in the baby and toddler years here).

Wanting More Parenting Help?

Want more information about how to parent and cope when you’re a new mom? Check out our book, The Newborn Baby Blueprint: Preparing to Care For Your Infant and Yourself.

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Looking for baby registry or baby shower gifts? You’ll love our Newborn Gift Boxes (in Baby Boy, Baby Girl, and Gender Neutral). They’re full of information, inspiration, and a little love for all the mamas and mamas-to-be in your life (including you!).

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