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PARENTING HACKS FOR NEW MOMS | HOW TO FIGHT BACK AGAINST MOMMY FAILURE FEELINGS

 Modern Mommy Doc


PUBLICATION DATE:

August 16, 2018

PARENTING HACKS FOR NEW MOMS | HOW TO FIGHT BACK AGAINST MOMMY FAILURE FEELINGS

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: MENTAL HEALTH + MOMMY GUILT

It didn't take much for me to feel like a mommy failure when I was just starting out on my parenthood journey and I know I'm not alone. The feeling creeps in when we struggle with breastfeeding, when we don’t have all the “right” gear, when we don’t have all the “right” information or when we don't handle every situation perfectly.


One mom in my office put
it so well:


“I handle multi-million dollar sales transactions on a daily basis. I sit in a conference room with other business leaders and can influence their decision-making at the drop of a hat. But getting my toddler to put on her shirt? Somehow, I fail every day at doing that without getting flustered and losing my cool. It’s so demoralizing. I’m scared of what I’ll mess up when she gets older and it really counts.”


Our friends, our parents, social media, our significant others - pressure and guilt can come from all sides, piling on a sense that it’s all or nothing. That good enough is never enough. That only the best will do. That we are mommy failures.



The Real Secret to Successful Parenting:


But the real secret to successful parenting is understanding and dealing with our own personal struggles and pain points, not pretending they don’t exist or acting like, if we just smile a little brighter, others won’t notice our humanity. Going to therapy, or to lactation or to our pediatrician for help. Understanding we are not as in control as we think we are most of the time. That sometimes we do our best and take all the classes and read all the books and IT STILL DOESN’T WORK. Taking a look at our own “weaknesses” and fears – these are the things that really make a difference.



What To Do When You Feel Like a Mommy Failure:


Stop beating yourself up if you don't always feel like you are the parent that you hoped that you would be. None of us are. Try your best. Deal with your own issues head-on, get the help you need to support yourself and give you the parenting tools that will allow you to rise above your most challenging days. Your children will thank you for it when they’re navigating their own parenting insecurities years down the road.


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