About Our Guest:
Whitney Casares, MD, MPH, FAAP, is a practicing board-certified pediatrician, author, speaker, and full-time working mom. Dr. Whitney is a Stanford University-trained private practice physician whose expertise spans the public health, direct patient care, and media worlds. She holds a Master of Public Health in Maternal and Child Health from The University of California, Berkeley, and a Journalism degree from California Polytechnic State University, San Luis Obispo. She is also CEO and Founder of Modern Mommy Doc.
Dr. Whitney advocates for the success of career-driven caregivers in all facets of their lives, guiding them toward increased focus, happiness, and effectiveness despite the systemic challenges and inherent biases that threaten to undermine them. She speaks nationally about her Centered Life Blueprint, which teaches working caregivers how to pay attention to what matters most amid pressure, at multibillion-dollar corporations like Adidas and Nike, and at executive-level conferences. She is a spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics and medical consultant for large-scale organizations, including Good Housekeeping magazine, Gerber, and L’Oreal (CeraVe). Her work has been featured in Forbes, Thrive Global, and TODAY Parenting. She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today.
Dr. Whitney practices medicine in Portland, Oregon, where she and her husband raise their two young daughters.
About the Episode:
In this episode, Dr. Whitney talks about the foundational piece that is missing that we must develop BEFORE we start implementing strategies for equity at home and in the workplace: self-worth. We must decide that we are worth fighting for and that we are valuable before we take on the giant systemic issue of inequity. Without it, there’s not much we’re fighting for and we’ll quickly lose steam and settle into societal norms.
Episode Takeaways:
- There are so many great tools out there, like Eve Rodsky’s idea of fair play for equitable workloads in relationships, as well as the minimum standard of care, that are helping women take huge strides towards equity in their home and workplace. However, sometimes, those strategies are a great second step and what we need to do first is to change the foundational principles that are actually holding us back from making that change. In 2023, we have to take ownership of our roles as women and realize that, even in the midst of systemic issues, we are either perpetuating the way we are treated in the workplace and at home or changing the game. We have control over certain aspects of our ability to be treated with the level of value that we actually have and bring to the table. There are 4 things we can do, no matter what our work or home situations are like, and no matter what the policies are that begin with the idea of knowing your self-worth.
- #1 We have to be aware of the conditioning that women in America have been getting since we were little, to not be too loud or aggressive and to be a “good little girl.” In recent contract negotiations, I found myself having to really be sure of the value and contribution I bring to the table. If I wasn’t, I would fall into making sure that, ABOVE getting my worth, I was kind. That I was well liked. That no one was mad at me. I always want to bring professionalism with me in my work, but if I do all of those things in place of allowing my contributions to be fairly compensated or even acknowledged, I’m perpetuating poor treatment.
- For example, let’s look at the fight for work-from-home vs mandated in-office hours. In many cases, employees find that they actually are more productive at home and are able to work more efficiently, but there’s still a lot of tone-deaf pushback from employers to say that people must work from their physical locations, which generally affects women more than men. When we are aware of those inequities, we have to push past the fear that we won’t be liked or that we need to stay quiet, in order to see real change happen.
- #2 Really dig into your self-boundary. There are all types of boundaries, such as boundaries around your time, money, or physical space. We often forget about the most important one, your self-boundary. If you have a really poor self-boundary, that means you’re willing to abandon your own needs for the sake of the team or for the sake of someone else, whose needs you’re putting above your own. Without these self-boundaries, you’re going to end up compromising your worth and it’s going to show up in your bodily symptoms (fatigue, headache, anxiety), usually at a pretty inconvenient time.
- #3 Treat yourself with self-compassion, which is the idea that you deserve to treat yourself the same way you would your best friend–with compassion and the benefit of the doubt. When you do this, you’re giving yourself grace for when you’re having a hard time, because you know you have a lot on your plate, you were overwhelmed, or because you were over-functioning. As moms, we’re usually terrible at this. Self-compassion recognizes the feelings that you’re having, validating those feelings, recognizing that you’re not alone in those feelings, and then treating yourself with as much kindness and empathy as possible. This allows you to set stronger self-boundaries and not allow people to treat you poorly, because you feel so strongly about what you’re worth and what you need.
- #4 Patience, practice and accountability. You can practice this using some compassionate-assertive language when you’re talking with other people. It allows you to show that you have compassion for what someone is going through, but doesn’t allow you to take on the burden of what they’re unwilling to carry. You also have to have that personal accountability piece in place in order to make sure that change is continually happening, not just the one time someone is called out. We had to do this when divvying up the chores in our house. Once we brought awareness to how much of a load I was taking on, my husband eagerly helped me split our tasks. However, he didn’t really fully jump on board to be consistent, until we had our therapist following up, as well as seeing other couples modeling what they were doing as well. It became our social norm. Finally, I just have to have lots and lots of patience. It’s taken us centuries to get to this point where we’re even aware of the inequities. It’s going to take generations until we get to where we want.
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About the Episode: In this episode of the Modern Mommy Doc Podcast, Dr. Whitney sits down with Miyaeva Renae—full-time creator, business owner, and intentional mom—to talk about the real side of new motherhood. Miyaeva opens up about the anxiety and overwhelm she faced after having her son, Stetson, and the rituals that helped her navigate postpartum life with more calm and self-compassion. From calling on her mom and her village for support to learning the importance of asking her fiancé for breaks, she shares how she learned to prioritize her own mental health while caring for her baby. You’ll also hear: How social media both fuels perfectionism and provides unexpected mom-to-mom support. Why ASMR and organization videos became part of her “calm the chaos” toolkit. Her honest take on breastfeeding, weaning, and the bittersweet milestones of a first year. The behind-the-scenes of life as a creator—and why she’s shifting from picture-perfect posts to more authentic, supportive content for moms. The story behind her new clothing line, Every September, created to fill the gap for boy moms who want neutral, stylish mommy-and-me outfits. This conversation is equal parts refreshing and relatable—a reminder that no mom has it all together, and that sometimes the best gift we can give ourselves is permission to be real. Key Takeaways: Motherhood isn’t perfect—and that’s okay. Miyaeva shares how postpartum anxiety pushed her to let go of perfection and focus more on the present moment with her son. Support systems matter. Leaning on her mom, best friend, and fiancé helped her find calm during stressful moments. Self-care can be simple. From eye masks to slippers to a warm shower, Miyaeva shows that little rituals make a big difference in mental health. Authenticity over perfection. Social media can amplify pressure, but it can also create powerful connections when moms are honest about the highs and lows. New ventures come from lived experience. Her clothing line, Every September, was born from her own frustration as a boy mom looking for stylish, neutral mommy-and-me outfits. About Our Guest Miyaeva Renae is a full-time digital creator, entrepreneur, and mom to her one-year-old son, Stetson. Known for her organizing hacks, “day in the life” videos, and calming ASMR routines, she has built a supportive online community of moms who value honesty and relatability over perfection. Beyond content creation, Miyaeva is the founder of Every September, a clothing brand designed to make mommy-and-me matching accessible and stylish—especially for boy moms. She’s passionate about helping moms feel seen, supported, and less alone in the messy, beautiful reality of parenthood. ✨ Follow Miyaeva: TikTok & YouTube: @miyaevrenae Instagram: @miyaeva Clothing Line: everyseptember.co Want to Start Raising Body-Confident Kids Today? 📘 Pre-order the Book Order your copy of My One-of-a-Kind Body before it launches on October 20, 2025. 👉 www.raisingbodyconfidentkids.com/books 🎁 Claim Your Free Bonus When you pre-order, you’ll also get access to a FREE video mini-course with five bite-sized lessons for parents. In just 25 minutes, you’ll walk away with: Simple, script-style ways to respond when your kid says, “I hate my thighs” How to talk about health without weight talk What to do when your own inner critic shows up How to interrupt diet culture at home The first step to raising a body-confident kid—even if you didn’t grow up as one 📩 Subscribe to The Modern Mommy Doc Podcast for more episodes on parenting with confidence and clarity. Leave a review using the hashtag #ModernMommyDoc.
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