When I started Modern Mommy Doc in 2017, I had no idea it would grow to serve the women that it does now. All I knew was that, as a working mom, I was constantly feeling the same thing: the push and pull to be everything at home and at work, while still feeling like I wasn’t good enough at either.

And I knew that everything I was seeing every day in my pediatric clinic confirmed that just about every other working mom out there was feeling the same thing. And I wanted to start changing that.

Since then, I’ve written books with the American Academy of Pediatrics. I’ve spoken to thousands of people on corporate stages at companies like Adidas, Cerave, and Gerber. I knew I was helping create change.

But I was still hearing from women that there was this expectation that they were feeling (whether it was because they were putting it on themselves, or because society as a whole just hasn’t gotten their act together), that they could never live up to. That they were supposed to still be “doing it all” and look good while doing it.

And yet…

An Ohio State University study showed 66 percent of working parents feel like they have nothing left to give. Burned out, desperate working moms are ineffective workers and parents. And a New York Times exposé highlighted how systems-level forces OR personal factors can reduce working mom struggles. 

Even if our work cultures aren’t as supportive as they could be, our kids aren’t perfect as we wish they were, or our partners are still learning to pull their weight, we don’t have to keep on suffering. You CAN stop over-functioning, stop blaming yourself, and create a life you love—no matter what your current circumstances. Not everyone thinks so, though.

Check out the haters who commented on my most recent viral Instagram post AND check out my (very nice) rebuttals: 

Hater: "What? I'm sorry, I think I took a nap in the middle of that."

My Response: "Probably because you're so exhausted!"

Hater: "These are just complaints because you don't want to work hard. I'm not hearing you describe any work here."

My Response: "It's all about working hard! Just not on everything, all at once."

And Finally, Not a Hater But I Saw This Mama So Fully: "Oh man, seems so obvious reading it like that...that's a lot of work to be doing."

My Response: "That's why I just had to post it. It's incredibly obvious when we see it written out like this but it doesn't feel so obvious when we're living it!"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 

 I write ALL about this in my new book, Doing It All: Stop Over-Functioning and Start Becoming the Mom and Person You Were Meant to Be. It is written for the working mama that is, shockingly enough, trying to do it all. You’ve been there, right? Trying to juggle all the things. Trying to kill it at work. And home. And in your relationships. And you can’t rely on all the things that are outside your control to actually change–and certainly not change remotely fast enough for you to see some real margin brought in your life. Doing It All shows you how to create a framework to organize your stress so that you can finally give your time, energy, and attention to what really matters. This book shows you how I did it and how life-giving (and simple!) those changes can be.

In the book I walk you through this lifestyle shift in 3 concrete ways: 

Motivation and Education: I’ll give you the information and encouragement you need to go from Conflicted to Centered using all my expertise and experience in the public health and pediatrics worlds. And I’ll show you exactly how to break through the barriers that you’ll face. 

Build Your Framework: I’ll give you actionable steps toward reaching your work-life integration goals. 

Live a Centered, Purposeful Life: You’ll get the resources to keep going on your Conflicted to Centered journey long after you finish reading. I’ll give you the tools you need as you head out on this new path toward more purpose and fulfillment. 

That’s the basic mission of Modern Mommy Doc: to empower working moms like you to stop over-functioning, and to reprioritize your own needs so you can be the parents, professionals, and people you’re meant to be. And that’s what I’m serving up with this book.

This book is for you if you’re a: 

Working mom with your “act together”

You reeeeally want to be perceived like you have it all together. You’re balancing the needs of work, daycare, home, and marriage, and on the outside it seems like you’re doing well. But you struggle with purpose, meaning, self-care, and self-prioritization, and occasionally either blow up or retreat inward. 

Sometimes you dream of just running away from it all and really want solutions to make your work feel “worth it.”

“Hot mess” mom

You just can’t keep up. If you get ten minutes to walk with friends, it's a verbal dumping ground of everything you have to do. You’re a walking to-do list, but can never catch up, no matter what you try. You’re known for showing up late to any Zoom call, always apologizing, and you absolutely don’t have time to put on clean clothes and a little makeup in the morning. You’re feeling that victim mentality hard, but don't see a way out of it. 

What you really want is some order in your life and you’d love to get out of the fight or flight feeling every single day.

“Coping” mom

If anyone asks you how you’re carrying the mental load, you’ll bust out your elaborate self care plan that you're sure will cure everything. Or you might offer to vent over a bottle of wine, on a weeknight. You’re turning to your vices to cope, and it isn’t working. You immerse yourself in self-care and health, or maybe even cocktail hours with friends a bit too often, hoping to stave off the big questions of motherhood and life. But, you lack meaning and purpose, hiding behind your next half marathon, or your elaborate calendar. And in all of that, you’re pretty lonely.

What you really want is to be seen, explore the big tough questions safely without judgment, and for some real systemic change that makes an actual difference for you.

“Special needs” mom

You aren’t participating in your town’s special needs mom group, because honestly? You’re super pissed to be a “special needs” mom. While you’re mitigating a new tantrum or explaining away unconventional behavior to another play date mom, you’re dying inside wishing for a “normal” kid. But you can’t admit that to ANY one. You’re constantly wondering where to put all this rage, the piles of decisions and appointments, or where to find the endless well of energy needed.

What you really want is a “regular” kid even though you love yours unconditionally, and some serious, real mom empathy from others who get it. And maybe a new set of actually achievable mom standards for how to function in this life that doesn’t always look like other families’ lives.

HR/Culture Team in the corporate world

Your team has noticed that moms in particular are having trouble with the traditional 9-5 schedule they maintain at your company. You’re seeing them asking to leave early or come in late multiple times per week. Increases in absenteeism, in the winter especially, when kids get sick. You’re not sure how to improve company culture and maintain expectations, while empowering the parents you know are normally top performers.

What you really want is an improved workplace environment to support employees without  sacrificing profits and productivity but wonder if that’s even possible.

Working mom life balance advocates/leaders

You are the Chamber of Mothers, the doulas and birth workers, the doctors, the authors, and other leaders pushing for change across the topic of work and motherhood.

What you really want isn’t just another mom coach, but someone with a medical and research-driven background.

If you fall into any of those buckets, my newest book, Doing It All: Stop Over-Functioning and Become the Mom and Person You’re Meant to Be, needs to be in your hands. You can pre-order it here…and trust me, you’re gonna want to get those pre-order bonuses!

Bonus #1: FREE LIFETIME ACCESS to the Modern Mamas Club app, including over 30 hours of video lessons on Dr. Whitney’s framework, navigating kids behaviors and emotions, and parenting in partnership

Bonus #2: 1:1 COACHING SESSION WITH DR. WHITNEY: Spend one hour with Dr. Whitney, setting a solid foundation for yourself as you dive into Doing It All.

Pre-order today because those bonuses are only good through January 29, 2024!