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NEVER NOT WORKING: WHY MOMS STRUGGLE TO SLOW DOWN—AND HOW TO LET GO

 Modern Mommy Doc


PUBLICATION DATE:

February 27, 2025

NEVER NOT WORKING: WHY MOMS STRUGGLE TO SLOW DOWN—AND HOW TO LET GO

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: YOUR Working Mom Life

About the Episode:


Why do so many high-achieving, perfectionist moms struggle with anxiety and burnout? Because we've been taught to equate our worth with productivity. In this episode, Dr. Whitney dives deep into the roots of hustle culture, workaholism, and the pressure to always be "on." Drawing from insights in Melissa Clark’s Never Not Working and her own experiences as a pediatrician and working mom, she explores the hidden costs of over-functioning—from mental health struggles to strained relationships. Most importantly, she offers practical strategies for setting boundaries, redefining self-worth, and reclaiming presence over productivity. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t slow down, this episode is for you.


Key Discussion Points:


1. Why Moms Buy into Hustle Culture


  • Many high-achieving moms feel anxious and overwhelmed because they’ve been taught their worth is tied to productivity—but motherhood throws control and efficiency out the window.


  • Society glorifies busyness and implicitly rewards overwork, making it feel like a necessity rather than a choice.


  • We don't have the support we need. We carry the entire mental load. 


  • Melissa Clark, in Never Not Working, explains that workaholism isn’t just long hours—it’s an uncontrollable need to work at the expense of health and relationships.


2. The Hidden Costs of Overworking


Dr. Whitney breaks down the real impact of being “always on”:


1️⃣ Burnout & Emotional Exhaustion – Overworking leads to chronic fatigue, cynicism, and reduced personal effectiveness.


2️⃣ Mental Health Issues – Increased stress, anxiety, and depression are direct consequences of never stopping.


3️⃣ Poor Sleep & Physical Health Decline – Work stress disrupts sleep and contributes to headaches, joint pain, high blood pressure, and other chronic issues.


4️⃣ Strained Relationships – Constant work makes moms feel disconnected from loved ones and less present in their daily lives.


5️⃣ Paradox of Productivity – Overworking doesn’t make us more effective—it actually hinders creativity, efficiency, and long-term success.


3. Breaking the Cycle: How to Stop Over-Functioning


✨ Set Boundaries & Define Working Hours


  • Choose intentional work hours that align with your lifestyle. It doesn’t have to be 9–5—work when it works for you and protect your off-hours.
  • Physically put your phone away or turn off notifications to create mental space.


✨ Redefine Success & Self-Worth


  • Focus on outcomes, not hours—what impact are you making rather than how many tasks you’re checking off?
  • In motherhood, success isn’t in having a spotless home or homemade meals—it’s in connection and presence.


✨ Prioritize “Big Rocks” First (Stephen Covey’s Time Management Strategy)


  • Imagine your life as a jar—fill it first with what matters most (family, health, personal fulfillment), then let the small stuff fit around it.
  • If you fill your life with tiny, unimportant tasks first, you’ll never have room for the things that truly matter.


✨ Create a Culture of Well-Being


  • In the workplace: Normalize breaks, advocate for flexibility, and set leadership examples of healthy work-life balance.
  • At home: Delegate, let go of perfectionism, and embrace imperfection in parenting and household tasks.


✨ Practice Small Moments of Stillness


  • Pause for just one minute today—set your phone aside, sip your coffee in silence, or take a longer shower.
  • Presence over productivity is a muscle that gets stronger the more you practice it.


Final Takeaway


If you feel like you’re never not working, take a pause. Start with small moments of rest and intentional choices that align with your values. Your worth isn’t measured by how much you do—it’s in how present you are for the things that truly matter.


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