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HOW TO RAISE AN ORCHID KID

 Modern Mommy Doc


PUBLICATION DATE:

December 3, 2020

HOW TO RAISE AN ORCHID KID

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: KIDS + PARENTING

Kristin Valerius, PhD, is not only a paediatric psychologist who counsels children for a variety of concerns including ADHD and anxiety, but she also has lived experience with those same diagnoses both personally and within her family.


In this episode, we’re going deep into how to best support our orchid kids with ADHD and anxiety, and how to support ourselves through the process because let’s be honest: it is not easy.


We’re talking about what makes an orchid kid so unique, how to think about self-regulation as a fuel tank with some of us being gas-guzzling SUVs and some of us being little Prius’, and why the term Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is actually pretty misleading.


Kristin will also be giving some amazing tips to orchid parents out there to help them on their journey, like:

  • How to build time-in and special time were the child is the expert and can’t mess up.
  • How to actively convey to your child that you trust and believe in them.
  • How to establish consistency and clear expectations - including consistency in your response when they break those expectations.
  • How to learn to give praise effectively.
  • How to differentiate between your child’s true self and their “in-the-moment” self.
  • How to develop an effective plan for mess ups and discipline that works for your child.
  • How to focus on repair instead of perfection.
  • How to effectively carry out the sleep, diet, and exercise recommendations.
  • How to provide scaffolding for social interactions and why it’s important to have at least one good friend.
  • How to teach coping skills and emotional management through leading by example.
  • Why it’s important to find other orchid parents if you’re an orchid parent yourself.


By the end of this episode, we hope you’ll have a solid framework to support your orchid child and yourself, know that being an orchid parent can actually be a good thing because it builds resiliency and strength that other parents don’t have to cultivate, and be reminded that you shouldn’t aim for perfection (and in fact, it’s ok to mess up because how you repair afterwards is where the magic really happens!)


Visit her Website:

Sundstrom Clinic


Follow her on Social:

LinkedIn


Other links mentioned in this episode:

Joel Nigg, PhD

www.headspace.com

New Horizon Meditation and Sleep Stories





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