In this episode, Dr. Whitney talks about why moms are comparing themselves to everyone else, now more than ever. She also gives practical encouragement on how to break the habit.
Key Takeaways:
∙ Moms are more apt to compare themselves to other moms more than ever before. We’re in each other’s lives more but know each other less. We used to be in each other’s homes, so we would see messy sinks, kids that fight, and marriages that need work alongside the successes that are celebrated.
Social media has created a world where we only see the highlights and best version of someone, so we automatically feel less than because we know our whole version. In order to appear like we have it all together and that we can do it all, we put up a facade for other people and that doesn’t allow any room for vulnerability.
∙ Working with women who are farther along than me is so inspiring but it can also trigger jealousy in me.
I love working with women who are “ahead” of me, but it’s really hard not to be envious of where they are. It looks effortless and their success seemingly appears out of nowhere, which convinces me that their message is more effective and important than mine.
I have to remind myself that we usually don’t see a finished product until it’s polished and beautiful. We don’t see imperfect versions or the bumps in the road for them.
∙ Every person’s Centered Vision is unique to them. We all have our own path that we’re meant to be taking. You have to constantly be looking back to your Centered Vision to make sure you’re still aligned with it and not veering off because you’re following someone else’s plan.
It's really difficult to be happy for other people if you haven’t been building gratitude into your own life. Your entire perspective is made brand new when you’re practicing being grateful. This then allows you to feel like you can learn from those ahead of you without resentment. And you can also be the lighthouse for someone who is just starting out on the journey behind without fear of having to share success.
