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SPOILER ALERT: YOU CAN'T MANIFEST YOURSELF TO A BETTER LIFE

 Modern Mommy Doc


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Jan 18, 2024

SPOILER ALERT: YOU CAN'T MANIFEST YOURSELF TO A BETTER LIFE

 Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: A Working Mom Life You ACTUALLY WANT

“I am at peace with myself. I always have abundantly more than I need. My family is a joy and life-giving.”


Ah, the good ol’ positive affirmation.


Where you focus your attention and thoughts on what you want your life and feelings to be like and not allow yourself to be pulled down by negativity and self-destruction. And then your life magically starts to go in that direction.


Here’s the deal, I firmly believe that if you have negative self-talk, you’re going to have a much harder time pushing through life. You’ll be disconnected from other people, you’ll have a harder time in relationships, and you’ll certainly be more apt to view things in a negative light. 


When you’re constantly swirling around negative thoughts and telling yourself those “stories” that aren’t true, you’re almost
creating another reality for yourself. Which makes it a lot more difficult to cut through that noise and see what’s really happening.

The longer and more deeply rooted those thought patterns are in your brain, the higher your cortisol level is raised. And higher cortisol levels, over time, cause higher blood pressure and other cardiovascular problems, weight gain, severe fatigue, and difficulty concentrating. 


It legit messes with your body. 

On the flip side, if you’re training your brain to remember and look for the good things in life, you’ll see the opposite to be true. But this is where it gets messy: affirmations alone don’t actually change your life. And a lot of the time, you’re surrounded by circumstances that just aren’t gonna change. Like your marriage or your job or your kids.


Instead of trying to manifest and escape your way into this new life where things just simply fall into place, what if you decided to view your life with
radical acceptance, own the experiences you’re going through, and work within the life you already have? What if you learned to focus yourself on YOUR priorities and what mattered the most to you, so that you could lead a life you love?


My newest book,
Doing It All: Stop Over-Functioning and Become the Mom and Person You Were Meant to Be, lays out a framework unlike anything else, on exactly how to create that life, centered on you and what’s most important.


And when I say “exactly how,” I mean it. I wouldn’t be living up to my oath as a pediatrician and my expertise in the public health arena if I just threw some affirmations your way, told you to connect to the universe, and feel it within yourself. Honestly, that stuff falls WAY short of being to make noticeable, long lasting change.


What you need is a framework laid out that gives you step by step how to take the life you have now and to work within it. Not creating a new you or a new reality, but making practical shifts that help you truly thrive and take ownership of the life you’re in NOW.


Instead of:


  • Feeling like you’re a yo-yo on a string, swinging between everyone else’s needs but never taking care of your own
  • Rearranging your schedule to accommodate classroom volunteer requests
  • Working into the night on emails because you left the office one hour earlier for your kid’s dentist appointment
  • Researching therapists for your anxious teen, blaming yourself for not being present enough in the early years
  • Feeling like every day is a diabolical game of Whac-a-Mole, with regret and stress the only “prizes” 


Imagine your life where you: 



  • Only commit to projects on the job that energize you and provide true value to your team. 
  • Say yes to the committees that will use your skills best, or simply say no for now.
  • Set personal and professional boundaries around communication and availability to your employer and extended family.
  • Make room to enjoy and invest in your kids, and have clear, realistic goals for parenting success. 
  • Prioritize time to recharge.


This book is different from any other out there–trust me, I’ve looked. Because it’s not just a chore chart to get your house and kids organized. It’s not just a way to timeblock your days so you can be more productive and effective at work. It takes those types of principals and allows you to customize them to YOUR life. Not the life of the latest podcaster, influencer, or author.


Your life. The one you’ve got right now. But focused where you want to give the most of your time, energy, and attention.


Doing It All comes out January 30th, but there’s still time to get your pre-orders in so you can get those kick-ass bonuses (one of with is a 1:1 session with me!) Grab your copy here!

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