YOU CAN'T JUST SHARE THE MENTAL LOAD WITH YOUR PARTNER. YOU REALLY DO NEED A VILLAGE — WITH KELLY HUBBELL

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PUBLICATION DATE:

November 30, 2023

YOU CAN'T JUST SHARE THE MENTAL LOAD WITH YOUR PARTNER. YOU REALLY DO NEED A VILLAGE — WITH KELLY HUBBELL

Modern Mommy Doc

CATEGORY: The Invisible Load

About Our Guest:

Kelly Hubbell is the founder and CEO of Sage Hous, an online platform to help busy Moms have it all without doing it all. My digital courses, eBook and resources encourage building a village and outsourcing the mental load of motherhood so we can be more present, reclaim our time and stop resenting our spouse.

You can find more information about Sage Haus at www.mysagehaus.com.

About the Episode:

This episode, Dr. Whitney is joined by Kelly Hubbell, founder and CEO of Sage House, an online platform designed for moms who want to really value their time and make the most of the hours in their days, focusing the most on what matters to them. They talk through the roadblocks working moms come against when trying to balance the workloads in their families and how we can help prepare our children to do the same in theirs.

Episode Takeaways:

Moms everywhere are on the verge of mental crisis as they attempt to do it all for everyone all alone. Many of the tasks we take on, though, don't have to rest on our shoulders. Not only can they be offloaded, they should be offloaded. The question is, how do we do it without emptying our savings accounts or continuing to ask our partners for help, only to feel disappointment by their lack of enthusiasm or initiation when it comes to building equity alongside us.

Society tells us we should be able to to do it all as working moms, even when it's quite literally impossible to do it. No one can be a domestic goddess, lean in career woman, amazing parent, perfect friend, and awesome lover all at the exact same time. A successful life isn't about balance, it's about giving our time, energy and focus to our highest priorities and most important values, not the opposite.

Old-school parenting villages don't exist anymore, so what's a mom to do? Redefine what a village looks like for us in the modern age, that's what. Maybe it means one person you can tell your deepest, darkest secrets to; one you can rely on for last-minute childcare help, and one you actually pay to offload some of the tasks you hate the most, freeing your time and energy to put toward more meaningful or impactful efforts.

Even though we often think that paying to delegate our chores or responsibilities is only for the rich and famous, small acts of delegation can actually save time and money, no matter what your circumstances. Intentional, mutual delegation like swapping chores with a neighbor is one way to lighten your load without any associated costs. If finding additional assistance at a small price allows you to make even more progress in your business, or saves you money on costly expenses like doctor bills or therapy sessions, though, that spend is well worth it.